tak.tahu.antara.dua

Monday will be my last day in sinspec.
Appreciate the memories, and experiences/lessons learnt.
doesnt seem like 6 mths aint it?
oh well.
i am moving for the good of myself.
NTU it is.
and yes. i wont cry. wont.

friday, had the farewell dinner for myself with my colleagues at lau pa sat's food street. been such a long time since ive eaten at tt kind of ambience.

the satay and the squid char kway was totally dope! doper still with mayo/cheese sauce on it~ urgh. :)

after the session, spent a bit of time chilling with liza and yati, before heading home, tired and left with a crampy stomachache. *must be the food*

wet, wet and cold saturday. watched mr bean holiday and ganyut 2 with my sisters in the morning. had nap before i sent them to madrasah. had " nap" again, all the way to maghrib. *mrapek kan khairi nie, asyik tiiidur aje*

~prolly tts why i couldnt sleep at this hr~

for.my.knowledge

Life Based on Ethics and Wisdom *

By Dr. Muzammil H. Siddiqi


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[In whatever matter you [Muhammad] may be involved, whatever portion of the Qur'an you may be reciting, and whatever work you [humankind] may be doing, We witness you when you are engaged in it. Not even the weight of a speck of dust in the earth or sky escapes your Lord, nor anything lesser or greater: It is all written in a clear record. But for those who are on Allah's side there is no fear, nor shall they grieve. For those who believe and are conscious of Allah, for them there is good news in this life and in the Hereafter — there is no changing the promises of Allah — that is truly the supreme triumph.] (Yunus 10:61-64)

Every day we are involved in different decisions related to our life affairs: our food, clothes, business, sports, entertainment, relations with family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, Muslims, non-Muslims, and so on. Sometimes the issues are simple and easy, and sometimes they are complex and difficult. Sometimes they are of social and financial nature, and sometimes they are of economic and political nature. Sometimes they are national and sometimes international. Depending on who we are, our age, profession, and position in life, the place we live in, the circumstances and conditions surrounding us, we are all involved more or less, one way or another, in decision making.

Islam has a very strong ethical perspective. It teaches us that in whatever we say and whatever we do, we must think very carefully and our decisions must be ethical. We must keep in mind certain principles of our faith and certain rules of our life. Basically, each one of us is urged to consider the following:

1. Allah knows everything that I say and do, and everything is recorded in a permanent register of deeds.

2. On the Day of Judgment, I may be asked by Allah to give the account of every thing that I said and did in my life.

3. Is my action lawful or unlawful in the viewpoint of Islam, right or wrong, fair or unfair, good or bad?

4. What will be the consequences of my words and actions?

5. What are my other duties and responsibilities? Am I keeping a balance between all my duties and responsibilities?

6. What are the rights of others with whom I have relations and among whom I live?

7. What does my conscience say about the decision or action that I am going to take?

8. What is the goal of my life? What is my vision and mission?

In each and every situation, we should consult the Qur'an and the Sunnah, consensus of Muslim scholars, and mind and reason. We should also take into account customs, traditions, different cultures, and rules and regulations. Islam emphasizes all these things and puts them into consideration.

In Islamic terminology, this is also called al-hikmah (wisdom and sagacity). A wise person is he or she who knows what to do, when to do it, and in which situation.

Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) came to teach the Book of Allah — the Qur'an — and wisdom. This is mentioned many times in the Qur'an. (See Al-Baqarah 2:129, 151, and 231; Aal `Imran 3:164; An-Nisaa' 4:113; Al-Ahzab 33:34; Al-Jumu`ah 62:2). The Qur'an does not contain the rules only, but also the wisdom. The Sunnah is full of wisdom too. It gives us practical rules and guidelines for making ethical decisions. No one can make proper ethical decisions without being wise.

Let's take Prophet Yusuf (Joseph) (peace and blessings be upon him) as an example for ethical and wise handling of issues. The story of Prophet Yusuf is the most beautiful story in the Qur'an. It is the most rich, dramatic, and compelling story. It is full of ethical judgments. Prophet Yusuf was a very talented, intelligent, and handsome person. He had to deal with all kinds of situations: jealousy, deceit, slavery, seduction, and imprisonment, and also power, prestige, and authority.

In every situation, Prophet Yusuf acted in the most ethical manner. He survived hardships, had self-control in the face of seduction, and was compassionate and forgiving when he became powerful. He had no grudge against those who mistreated him nor against those who put him in prison. He forgave his brothers who threw him in a ditch. With all welcome, he received and fulfilled the request to interpret the vision of the King of Egypt, though Prophet Yusuf was still inEgypt's prison, and though the request came through a person who once was asked by Prophet Yusuf to remind the king of his case but forgot, causing Yusuf to remain in prison for extra years.

Prophet Yusuf did not hesitate to help the people of Egypt when they needed his help. He saved them from a disastrous famine, and in the process he was able to save his own family and his people as well. He was able to have them all migrate to Egypt.

In brief, Prophet Yusuf was smart, but he was not cunning. He knew how to take advantage of situations, but he was not an opportunist. He was a man of character, truth, and sincerity.

We have to learn how to live in every situation with great vision and understanding. We must not lose sight of our moral values under any situation. Whatever we say and do, we should be based on wisdom and ethics. Not all rules are written in the Qur'an and Hadith; a lot of rules and decisions depend upon our own conscience, the inner voice of our heart.

It is reported in a hadith thatWabisah ibn Ma`bad said,

I came to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) wishing to ask him everything concerning virtue and sin, but I found a gathering of people around him. I went towards him, crossing the people. They said to me, "Away, O Wabisah, get away from the Prophet." I said, "I am Wabisah; allow me to go near him. I really love to be close to him." The Prophet said, "Come near, O Wabisah, Come near." So I went very close to him (and sat so close to him) until my knees touched his knees. The Prophet said, "O Wabisah, should I tell you what you want to know or do you want to ask?" I said, "O Messenger of Allah, You tell me." He said, "You came to ask me about virtue and sin." I said, "Yes." The Prophet put his three fingers together and then kept sticking them to my chest and said, "O Wabisah, seek answer from your own self. Virtue is that in which the heart finds rest and soul finds peace, and sin is that which makes you uneasy and hesitant, even if people say it is all right." (Ahmad)

flirt.wannabe

what isit to you?

just another game?

a game to give a boost to tt insatiable ego-monster of yours?

a game, where u noe, u haf nothin to lose in the end?

thus, why not juz give it a shot?

stop whatever ure doing rite now.

what, u cant? totally enjoying tt cheap thrill ure getting?

ah. the idle mind of the horned.

remember dude, what goes around comes around.

;)

a.coupla.of.virgos

sat.
met up with an ol bud of mine from NS tekong medic days.
a lil pool session.
makan at tt mama eating plc at KOEK rd. (yes. its spelt correctly)

sun.
finally get to meet up with anissa.
:)
a very impromptu meeting.
in a bus.

"Khairi d mane sekarang?" sudden sms i got from her.

i glanced ard in the bus.

"in a bus on the way home..."

i looked ard in the bus, thinkin if shes there. i didnt see.

then she called.

:)

impromptu and unprepared. she was in the second carriage, and im in the first one.

"why are we talking to each other thru the phone even tho we are in the same bus?"

took tt hint, and i decided to go over.

sheepish grins from khairi and all. but its ok. im glad it happened.

and im still smiling thinkin abt it rite now.

...

"
230707/0100


this date ill forever etch it in my heart.
22 July 2007.

"
This one's tough.
I have been looking for lots.
Some I had found, others i have not.
In fact,I may never find.
And that's becoz..
Everything happens for a reason,isn't it?
And now that you are here, do you think you're one of those who's meant to cross my path?

*whether you think you can or whether you think you can't..you're right*
"

...

ure rite. everythin happens for a reason.

everything.

to all the things we both share.

from the moment, i decided to send u a sticky note when i saw your profile.

to the pt where we finally got to realise tt both of us are real and not just phantom figures existing only in our minds.

coincidence? fate?
yes. He works in mysterious ways. sometimes a lil bit too much tt we might think, is this for real?

but its wonderful and breathtaking nevertheless.

juz now left me smiling from ear to ear.

and even after the phonecall after that.

...

im glad and i thank you.

Yours truly,
Khairi
"- AM blog.

hook.AND.spin

a blast of a weekend/week for me.
and yeah, blink2, its suddenly already monday.

tues.
watched transformers with izzuwan. my ol sec sch best fren.
kinda impromptu thingy.
before tt had dinner at banquet with liza(my understudy at work) and her bestie, ina.

somehow, when i had tt understudy, time seems to go much faster and enjoyable.
and also, ade jugak teman for trips to and from work.
coz liza live totally so near me. :)

friday.
had a bowling session wit my colleagues at marina sq.
before tt had dinner at cavana. first time eating at tt franchise.
ok2 lah. had teriyaki chicken rice on hotplate.
and yeah, the lanes suck!~
honestly. and the service, so the crappy.
urgh~
my hookin game was, well, outrageously bad. tt i had to resort to spinners for all my throws.
well, at least i found out tt my spinning has vastly improved.

whole sat spent with my phamilia~ chilled at my granny's place at mei ling st.
dinner at adam rd.
chilled with my uncle "Along" at Labrador Park with my parents and seri muslihah.
mustafa for some pants shopping.
supper/breakfast at tt indian eating place beside it.

sun.
watched transformers with the geng.
a blast of a movie. it was worth having a second view. (and yeah, i got the transforming sound clip for my message tone, thanks to liza)
was a lil nauseous and no appetite at first.
and the weather was scorching hot.
no good idea to wear black~. urgh.
bowled at mount faber safra.
horrible horrible games i had. except for the last two.
where i finally found the ball where i had a perfect fit for my fingers and the ideal weight, 10 pounds.
really got me pondering seriously if i shud get my own ball.
but tt would leave me in a dilemma. in choosing a hook ball, or juz a normal ball.
coz i realise, my game is better if i combine the two techniques together.
hook for the first throw, and then juz spin it for the spares if i dun haf a strike.
and sumhow, thank god, my spinning is more consistent. ;)

the session later only served to open up my mind further and remind myself.
abt certain2 things in life tt is worth pondering over.
friend/family commitments.
abt putting priorities straight.
abt putting forth the attitude of not taking things as a balanced give and take view.
sometimes, even tho we may not like it, we do haf to contend with giving more than we can take.
thanks to bro afiq and sis aisyah for giving their priceless perspectives.

yeah.
im contented.
im happy.
psyched up for my NTU stint.
insyallah, itll go well.

no monday blues for me this time.

bro afiq, sis aisyah, sis dja,
thanks for being part of my life.
i cant thank u guys enuf. :)

and yeah. recently developed a minor crush/infatuation on a certain siti hanah of the anugerah this year. but im sure itll pass soon enuf tho. haha

to anyone who read this,
may Allah bless ya'all~

5-0! 5-0!

throw away the anger.
throw away the resentment.
throw away the ill-will.

"fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering." - yoda.

yoda?
doesnt matter. apt. and true enuf.

forgive.
the greatest remedy to a broken heart.

let go.
why burden yrself with the pressure.

haf faith.
everythin comes from Him for a reason.

be firm.
firm in yr beliefs and values.

reflect.
on how things go wrong, why it happened, and how not to repeat it.

knowing the consequences of consequences.
An object at rest tends to stay at rest and an object in motion tends to stay in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced (opposing) force.

our present is the seeds to our future.
so act now.


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random tots of mine.

random habis!

mwahahahahahahaha

ID.Barrier

020707

the clothes i wear.
the words i speak.
the way i talk.
the way i look.
the moustache i try to sport decently.
the languages that i use to communicate with.
the amount of money in my bank account.
the jobs that i do to live by.
the number of ladies in my lil black book.
the number of contact numbers in my mobile.
the house that i live in.
the fact that i smoke.
the books that i read.
the artpieces adorning my shelves and walls.
the music that i listen to.
the people that i love.
the people that i hate.

u can think of many others things to be in this list, thats for sure.

but all doesnt matter in defining who i am.
all that is superficial.

but the gist of it all is this. which im sure a few others would understand and attest to.

my identity is defined by...
my deeds for the better good of all around me.
my attitude towards the plight of others.
my stand on general life issues/philosophies.
my understanding on how life should be lived.
my faith.

...

defintely not by the prowess of my mother tongue or tha traditional malay outfits im supposed to wear during certain days.
and hell definitely not by the bawangness of my nose, and the sawo matangness of my skin.

and dun ask me how my mind works.
;)

birthday.in.islamic.dates

020707/1200

juz meant to satiate my curiousity.

18 September 1986 = 14 Muharram 1407

2 July 2007 = 17 Jumada Al-Akhirah 1428

14 Muharram 1428 = 1 February 2007.

meaning my "birthday" has passed.

my next will be on

14 Muharram 1429 = 22 January 2008.

hmm. ...

18 September 2007 = 7 Ramadan 1428
18 September 2008 = 18 Ramadan 1429
18 September 2009 = 29 Ramadan 1430
18 September 2010 = 10 Syawal 1431

3 birthdays in 3 fasting periods.

"ouhkay~"

:based on h t t p : / / prayer . al-islam . c o m / convert . asp ? l = eng

ok2. why am i doin this now?

coz my worktray is empty.~

dum dee dum dum~

300607

short, brief summary.
morning, brought mima and ika to the temporary building of yishun town sec.
had a fund raising fair.
rides, games, food.
very hot morning. tot i could faint.
had nap till abt two. didnt send them to madrasah, as i woke up late.
met up with afiq at khatib at 1520. yes. late. tapi takpe, coz khairi pun pernah bikin. even worse. haha.
waited for them, the gang came at 1630.
kak aisyah, dja, umi, kak ima, piee.
went to eat ayam penyet near the bugis there.
dja got me and afiq tt lovely stamp bearing our full names in arabic. specially flown in from mesir. ;)
asar at sultan mosque.
maghrib at hajjah fatimah mosque.
bowled at starbowl.
met up with dja and umi's bro.
was nice meeting him, and thank god. we clicked. :)
had a much much better game than the last bowling session. which was a complete mess for me. and all tt thanx to afiq. my hook getin better and better. wit juz the occasional lapses of concentration. safe to say, everybody had gd games which left everyone satisfied. its like we all juz reached a whole new level altoghether.
supper at jalan pinang corner. a place introduced by piee. where i learnt the term, "sky juice" from piee, and i tot he was refering to skyy vodka. haha. had nasi pattaya and teh gajah. which left me bloated. haha.
cabby ride home.
conf with afiq, kak aisyah, dja.
talked abit wit kak aisyah.
which left me reflecting on how has my 2007 been thus far..
summing it up with one word, a revelation.

:)

bowling.assesment010707

010707/0335

a much better session than the last. much much better.
uh huh. again played bowling at starbowl, at textile center.
haiz. gonna miss tt plc when it cease to run its bowling alleys.
ok. when the momentum, and the enthusiasm is still there, imma do da long long overdue bowling assessment, asked to be done by our dear sifu (afiq) some time back.. kehkehekhe.

different lanes will tend to have different conditions set upon them, and yes, different lane has its own different quality abt them. be it the oiling on the surface or the material of the surface itself. it all matters. for example, the oiling may affect on how well, or intensive the curve of a hook ball may be.

thus for the bowler's part, he has to ascertain on how best he can get the ball to strike the pins completely. this is done by taking note of how he positions himself, how he throws the ball. basically, the overall technique. and the bowler has to learn to adapt to these changes as necessary, so tt he can rack up a consistent performance to get the maximum pts possible. alah. mcm carik g-spot gitu lah. haha

for me, at starbowl, since the lanes are quite new, and still "fresh", it provides an easier condition to contend bowlers with. unlike victorbowl at marina, which has lanes tt are quite heavily oiled due to its extensive usage over a period of time.

ok. at starbowl, from what i realised juz now, a better performace from me would require these:

positioning, the outside of my right leg will haf to rest on the middle arrow.

throw, to haf the bowl aimed at the arrow 2nd from the right. also, i realise its better for me to releasing it in mid-air. by doing so, my curving hook of the ball will be juz nice to reach tt "pocket". if i were to release the ball nearer to the grd, somehow, my curl will curl so much so tt it wont even reach the first pin, and then end up kissing the longkang.

also regarding throw, i think its safe for me to establish myself as a hooker rather than a spinner, which i was before this informal bowling trainin sessions became more regular. i was a natural spinner. first time i throw the bowling bowl in jc, i was told i was one. the coach told me. thus, from then on, i didnt pay the tecnique of hooking much attention.

but thanx to afiq, i realised tt hooking the ball is a much better option for me. as it covers more areas than a spinned ball. and also, the chances of the ball striking all the pins are higher than if i were to spin the ball. anywayz, at tt pt of time, my spinning technique aint tt consistent. thus, i decided to give hooking the ball a chance. and thanx to his guidance, i can safely say i can hook it decently enuf. its juz tt, i haf to make my technique more consistent.

abt hooking the ball, not much of a problem.

things i shud take note of, to exert more power when hooking, so tt the ball wont curl itself into oblivion. and also, abt the throwing the ball mid air. my arm strength is abit of a problem for me, so i gotta work on tt area.

juz now, afiq advised me to bend lower when releasing the ball. make it more accurate, he said. personally, didnt really see much of a diff, but as he's coach, and he knows better abt bowling, i think its best tt i juz adhere to his tip.

also, regarding spares.

positioning of the bowler is important as to how he deals with his spares. if theres a spare pin on the right, he shud postion himself more to the left. and vice versa. tts for me at least.

last not least, the psychological aspect of doing well in bowling.
one great tip, always maintain a cool head and attitude during the course of play. negative thoughts shud always be steered away. and always adopt a relaxed attitude. and maintain a nonchalant stance, even after throwing a bad shot. a great help would be talking w ppl, instead of juz letting oneself be frustrated wit himself. which i used to tend to do when i was bowling.

also, after every throw, reflect deeply how did it go wrong. sometimes, it may due to juz a random fall of concentration for u to break a winning game. which i did during my first games juz now. perhaps, i was too excited abt beating my sifu tt i throwed the last throw badly. haha.

another time perhaps. ;)